Tough Conversations - Death, Trauma, and Grief
A tragic loss may affect your child in a variety of ways. In times of need, the well-trained Klein ISD Critical Incident Response Team springs into action to support our students, staff, and community. Should you wish to share this information with your child, the Klein ISD Counseling and Whole Student Wellness Department has enclosed some suggestions that may prove helpful to you as you discuss death:
Your child needs to feel that they are allowed to express their thoughts and feelings regarding the incident without the fear that they will be judged negatively. Listen carefully and affirm that you understand what they are feeling and thinking.
Continue to comfort your child by sharing you will be there for them, and you will see them through this period of grief.
You may need to spend additional individualized time with your child. Try to structure your time with them by playing games, having discussions and going places. During your time together, focus a majority of your attention on your child.
Don’t be hesitant to ask your child how they are coping, even though you may expect an answer of, “fine.” The fact that you ask will be important to your child, even though they may not show this.
Keep in touch with your child’s teacher to monitor their academic performance.
Regardless of your child’s response to you, reassurance is comforting to them that you are there if they need any assistance. You may want to outline just how you can help them (e.g. by talking or getting professional help).
- Honest answers
- Reality checks
- A variety of ways to do memory work
- A means to say good-bye
- No comparisons
- To continue to be...just who they were before!
- Opportunities to move in and out of the grief process
- To know that they do not have to protect you
- To be included
- For you to do your own grief work